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BOUNDARIES This week on my podcast “In All Hones

ad WHAT WELLNESS REALLY MEANS? Post-lockdown, I w

ad WHAT WELLNESS REALLY MEANS?
Post-lockdown, I went up to Manchester to record a podcast with @arlalactofree (and @mother_pukka and @foodandpsych) and we talked about what wellness really means.

That word is so associated with diet culture now but for me, being well means listening to your body, first and foremost. This can be listening to your need to sleep, eat, drink water and even your need to cry. Yes, I believe we all have a need to cry sometimes! If you don’t let it out, it stays trapped in your body and we all know how important I think processing your emotions are.

It’s a really important conversation where I talk about normalising crying, how I have dealt with my trauma (and set boundaries around it!) and why I’ve stopped shaming myself for sleeping more than other people.

Swipe up in my stories to give it a listen 💖What does wellness mean to you? #ArlaLactoFree #TheWWord

I am Singaporean-Chinese, British and Ashkenazi Je

I am Singaporean-Chinese, British and Ashkenazi Jewish.
There are all words I identify with.
There are aspects of me that are connected to each one of these labels.
Sometimes I used to switch them around, will only say Chinese and drop the Singapore part. Sometimes I will say Jewish by blood, to clarify that I’m not religious.
But it was simple.
I would joke with my Jewish friends about our Jewish bums, mine passed down by my gorgeous grandmother, my Chinese friends would laugh that I’m a bad asian cause I can’t take chilli and I’d be told I’m becoming more and more like a British Rose since moving here and losing my tan.
They were all a part of me and have always been beautifully interwoven.
And then I got on the internet and suddenly I felt the need to separate each part of me and neatly segment them to make it easier to understand.
The words “racially ambiguous” was introduced to my vocabulary.
I suddenly felt like I didn’t know enough and didn’t want to share my stories connected to each because what if I was too mixed to be accepted as part of that community.
Being mixed means I will never know enough. There is too much to know.
Being mixed means I will never be enough. That much was told to me growing up.
But then I woke up one day and realised who am I doing this for?
Why was I trying to put myself in boxes to make myself easier to understand?
I know who I am.
I am firm in my identity.
It wasn’t me who was confused.
It was other people.
This wasn’t a me problem.
It was a them problem.
I know who I am.
I am proud of each aspect of me.
Let them be confused.
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