How To Say No

Say NO to demanding friends. NO to parties you don't want to go to. NO to being tied to your phone. NO to unwanted hugs. This is an empowering, essential and playful guide to setting boundaries, for readers aged 9+.

Growing up is a minefield. You have to navigate new friendships, new teachers, your body changes, people are kissing, there never seems to be enough hours in the day ... and why is everyone suddenly posting their breakfast on social media?!

Author and life coach, Michelle Elman, is here to show you how to say no and take control. 'No' makes you strong. 'No' makes you confident. 'No' makes you realise your worth and what you deserve.

From setting boundaries with friendships, phones, family, your body and much more, and with funny and informative illustrations, this important, playful and empowering book is a one-stop guide to creating the rules to your own life, and knowing when it's okay to say NO!

How To Say No

The Selfish Romantic

  • How many people are walking through the world convinced that they have to settle?
  • How many people are being treated badly because they think they don't tick desirable boxes?
  • What would happen if you didn't limit yourself by seeing yourself as a bunch of labels, and instead saw yourself as a catch?
  • How fun would it be to be single without questioning your loveability, to date without taking rejection personally, and to have sex without hating your body?

Nearly every question life coach and queen of boundaries Michelle Elman is asked relates to one subject: dating.

Including unravelling myths about single life, changing your dating mindset, dealing with ghosting, text etiquette and taking relationships offline, The Selfish Romantic will teach you how to empower your love life like never before.

Selfish Romantic FRONT


“Every once in a while an author comes along and you want to tell everyone you know to read their books. Michelle is one of those authors. Her work in the mental health space, particularly with boundaries and relationships is so important. Don’t walk to get Michelle’s new book, run!”

- Louise Pentland

“An honest and authentic piece of writing on the nuances of dating, romance and relationships - even the relationship we have with ourselves. I love that Michelle is able to empathetically hold the reader accountable whilst understanding the complexities of modern dating. Interesting, witty, informative and empowering.”

- Grace Victory

“Written in undeniable Michelle Elman style; this book is carefully researched, incredibly relatable and filled with firm yet compassionate advice. This is the relationship guide you won't get from a one-line Instagram post, and that you absolutely need if you want to date without losing yourself.”

- Megan Jayne Crabbe

“If you’ve ever had questions about dating and if it was about you. TSR is here to walk you through those tough times to remind you of your worth and give you answers to questions you sometimes long to get from the partner involved. It’s okay to feel lost at times in the dating world although it’s not okay to blame yourself. Michelle allows you to identify what means something to you and how to lift your worth up by finding the love for oneself first.”

- Hayley Hasselhoff

“In a world where dating advice seems to come either too late, too confusing or too strict, The Selfish Romantic makes dating fun again by reminding you that you are the one to prioritize and fall in love with. I wish I had this book when I was younger and dating! A book for any age trying to enter into partnership."

- Kenzie Brenna

“Michelle has the ability to rewire the way your brain thinks and you’ll be thankful that she has. If you need a firm hand to pull you through the world of dating and out the other side a happier person, Michelle is that. Your highlighter will run out of ink by the time you finish this book. Insightful, direct, and oh-so-full of respect. This is the book every woman should read once in their life."

- Abigail Mann

The Joy Of Being Selfish

Is your friendship group constantly filled with drama?
Does your boss make constant unreasonable demands?
Do you find yourself saying 'yes' to people and events to keep those around you happy?
Do you often find yourself emotionally exhausted and physically drained?
If so, you need a strong dose of boundaries.

It's time to discover the joy being selfish. Putting the needs of everyone around us before our own is ingrained in us from a young age. Often, this leaves us with little time or energy for much-needed self-love and self-care, and to figure out who we truly are and what we really want. Life coach and influencer '@scarrednotscared' Michelle Elman is here to teach you about reclaiming your life through the art of boundaries. The practical side of self-love, creating and upholding strong boundaries will teach others how to treat you, rid your life of drama and toxic relationships and allow you to love yourself and others in the best way possible.



“Michelle has made me feel more confident in my own boundary setting in my workplace and relationship. I could not recommend this book enough to those who struggle saying no and put other people’s happiness before their own.”

- Holly Hagan

“Michelle’s sense of empowerment and self-love and self-care is so palpable you can actually use it as bricks and mortar to build better boundaries for yourself. I certainly have!”

- Carrie Hope Fletcher

“If you feel guilty saying no, expressing your needs or standing up for yourself, allow this book to hit you with some uncomfortable but necessary truths. Michelle’s signature take-no-sh*t attitude combines with genuine compassion and expertise to teach you what boundaries really look like, and why you deserve them. Every woman in my life would benefit from this book.”

- Megan Jayne Crabbe, @bodyposipanda

“Michelle is the queen of boundaries. We all need this book, now more than ever! Whether it’s work, romance, family or friends, Michelle will guide you through the process of setting boundaries. By the end of the book you’ll be proud to call yourself selfish because it will mean you are showing yourself the love and respect you deserve.”

- Katie Piper

Am I Ugly?

In today's world of supplements, celebrity diets and social media, it's very easy to be hard on ourselves about the way we look. With all this pressure to strive for 'perfection' aesthetically, it is easy to forget how damaging this can be psychologically. Michelle Elman is a leading part of the body positivity movement that has been gathering momentum to liberate people from these unrealistic standards, recognise that all bodies are equally valuable and broaden the billboard definitions of beauty.

Am I Ugly? is this inspiring woman's compelling and deeply personal memoir that describes her childhood experiences of life-threatening health problems, long stays in hospital and fifteen complex surgeries that left her scarred, both mentally and physically. The narrative follows Michelle's journey from illness to health, and from childhood to adulthood as she deals with her body-confidence issues to embrace both her scars and her body - and help others to do the same. This remarkable book grapples with the wider implications of Michelle's experiences and the complex interplay between beauty and illness.



"Elman is a body positivity veteran ... Her realistic approach to loving yourself is refreshing, and her posts are an important reminder that loving yourself isn't automatic. It takes time and work - but the journey is worthwhile"

- Allure

"One of the few people who truly embody the message that they teach. Her expertise is undeniable, her writing has the ability to connect with every reader in a way that feels as if they're being supported and understood"

- @BodyPosiPanda

"Honest, refreshing and full of optimism"

- Sunday Post

"This remarkable book grapples with the wider implications of Michelle's experiences and the complex interplay between beauty and illness ... I was so happy to have come across her story, because it made me feel like I wasn't alone, and wasn't unusual."

- Almost Amazing Grace

"A truly inspirational woman whose brave choices have created a path to self-acceptance for people everywhere."

- Belfast Telegraph