There is a saying in the coaching community that goes: “Your perception is your projection”. That means that what you see others, must exist in you for you to be able to recognise it. If you see beauty in me or my words, that beauty must already exist within you.
If you see me as a delusional disgusting person who is naive to her self hatred, well that says more of you.
Because here’s the thing… you’ve never met me. I’m not in the same room as you and if I can cause such a reaction, then it’s not about me.
That’s why you and a friend could see two different personalities in the same person. That’s why when you are around certain people, different elements of your personality is brought out.
So just remember if someone thinks less of you, it doesn’t mean you are not good enough, it means you have different perceptions and you might remind them of a part of themselves they don’t want to be associated with.
Remember that no one in the world is “objectively” anything.