Focusing on One Direction: Setting Goals

March 27, 2015

As some of you might have heard, as it is practically impossible to avoid on the news or to hide the mass hysteria of teenage girls across social media, One Direction has lost a member. As some of you know, I am a fan of the band and have even been caught singing and dancing to their music both in public and in the privacy of my own home and because of this,  I felt this piece of news warranted a blog post, not because I will miss Zayn’s voice when I’m dancing around to their next album, but because the aftermath of this announcement has astonished and puzzled me.

Yes, they are the biggest boy band of this generation, but 300 people calling in for compassionate leave? That means 300 people, who are old enough to be working, requested leave that is largely held in reservation for when a family member passes. Let alone the latest hashtag going around social media #AlwaysInOurHeartsZaynMalik … This boy is alive, well and wealthy enough to buy out of the contract that was holding him into a band that made him millions, I’m sorry but the room in my heart is all taken up.

In his words, he left the band because he wants to be a normal 22 year old, and for that I applaud him for taking the steps out to take the harder road, for what seems to be for the sake of his mental health and relationship. But this post is not about Zayn, this post is about those 300 people and the people that would fall under the one direction ‘fandom’.

The fact that people are becoming so invested in other people’s lives and the actions they choose to take in their life, tells me that something isn’t right in their own life. It isn’t just celebrities, people who are so focused on anyone else, whether it is someone else not texting them back or the latest DUI in Hollywood, likely need to take that time and energy and place it in building up your own life and achieving your goals. That boy/girl not texting you back, your obsession with One Direction, that is all a distraction. That person not replying, they aren’t ignoring you, they are busy with their lives, and the way to stop feeling ignored is to get busy with yours. If you are feeling sad about this One Direction drama, the way to start feeling happy again, is start getting happy with your own life and focus on that.

Decide or Distract. Spend your life deciding who you want to be and how you want your life to be or distract yourself with the latest piece of gossip in your social circle or the latest TV show to hit the rounds.

So to those people out there greatly saddened by the loss of One Direction, I am truly sorry that they no longer exist, they will go down in history, whether older generations like it or not as a great boy band and yes this will probably signal their demise but I implore you to stop focusing on One Direction and start focusing in one direction, start having laser-light vision about what you want and go for it!

Write those goals down and start taking small actions towards them, those actions will form habits that will be the rituals to your success! Need help on how to do that or want to know more about NLP,  email me at